About a month ago, I heard Lauren Daigle’s song, “You Say,” playing on the radio. Surprisingly, it wasn’t being broadcasted from my go-to music source, K-LOVE. Her voice sang from a secular station.
God’s working, I thought. He’s using a once unknown Christian singer to spread His truth.
I couldn’t help but think that Lauren Daigle found her purpose. Could I find my purpose and do something wonderful like her too?
Do you, like me, find yourself questioning your purpose in life?
What Keeps You from Your Purpose?
Listening closely to the words of Lauren Daigle’s song gave me a reminder about why I feel lost in a life I try to create for myself when I should be embracing the life given to me.
What might be preventing you from seeing your purpose?
YOU STRUGGLE WITH WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU (AND WHAT YOU THINK OF YOURSELF!).
I keep fighting voices in my mind that say I’m not enough
Every single lie that tells me I will never measure up¹
As babies, the assessment of who we are and how well we perform begins. Parents, family, and even strangers evaluate us to determine what type of person we will become based on developmental milestone and temperament.
From the get-go we learn the importance of measuring up. We excel because of the praise of others and sink into defeat when we don’t meet expectations.
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YOU MEASURE YOURSELF BY THE WORLD’S VIEW OF SUCCESS.
Am I more than just the sum of every high and every low?
Many of us try to reach the top of a mountain the world tells us we can summit with hard work and determination. Maybe we gain wealth and prestige via a career. Or we cultivate recognition with activism and passion for a cause. The ways to the “highs” of life are endless.
Unfortunately, popularity, financial security, and personal satisfaction offer an empty promise, which assures us that the highs of life make us while the lows of life break us.
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YOU ALLOW YOUR EMOTIONS TO RUN YOUR LIFE.
You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing
Our anger propels us into needless battles. Our excitement about a higher position pushes us into a crazed work situation. Our loneliness preaches to us about our unworthiness.
Emotion thrives on the power we give it. The longer we listen to emotion without establishing truth, the larger opportunity it has to persuade us, to lie to us, and to control us.
This isn’t your purpose in life.
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YOU RELY ON YOUR OWN STRENGTH.
You say I am strong when I think I am weak
Survival of the fittest plagues our society. We believe those with strength advance further and that toughness, be it physical, emotional, or mental, secures a promising future.
Yet, we ignore the fatigue that will eventually come when we continuously count on our own might. We cover up weakness with a strength that eventually falters. We overlook the source of true power.
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What Is the Truth About Your Purpose?
At one point in time, purpose became less about why we exist and more about how we can make our existence important through worldly wins.
Here’s the thing: Failures outnumber our successes. As hard as we may try, our imperfections don’t allow us to stay on top of victory mountain.
When we rely on our own strength to commandeer our life and our reason for existing, well, we end up like Sisyphus. We’re rolling our heavy rock up a hill only to have it roll back down on us.
I understood the hope in Lauren Daigle’s song when I realized we don’t find our purpose.
God gives us purpose.
Now a word of caution: Don’t confuse purpose with plan. Purpose is why you exist. God’s plan is what you do for Him while you exist. (You can learn more God’s will here.)
So What Is Your Purpose?
It isn’t reason enough for us, though, is it? Our flesh desires for us to create our value rather than accept it from God.
Has any hope or peace come out of the belief that we can earn or work towards achieving a purpose? I don’t know about you, but anytime I’ve accepted this idea, I’ve felt like a failure.
You don’t have to feel defeated or worthless anymore.
“In You I find my worth, in You I find my identity”
Trust the God who knows, made, and rules all. Because when He chose to create you, that gave you worth. That gives you purpose.
How Can You Remember Your Purpose?
The devil wants us to seek a purpose rooted in the world rather than in our King. I’m sure you, like me, will lose sight of this from time to time. And when this occurs, we can be reminded about who we are and why we exist in God’s word.
“Remind me once again just who I am, because I need to know”
When you lose sight of your purpose, cling to these truths:
1. GOD LOVES YOU.
You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing
The ways in which God displays His love for you are endless. But perhaps He best showcases His love in John 3:16:
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”
2.GOD GIVES YOU STRENGTH.
You say I am strong when I think I am weak
Your body will fail and your emotions will leave you weary. But don’t for a second think that you are weak if you put your trust in God. We are important enough to Him that He promises to give us strength (Isaiah 41:10).
“…I will strengthen you, I will help you…”
3. GOD HOLDS YOU UP WHEN YOU FALL.
And You say I am held when I am falling short
The world will turn its back on you. But God will never leave or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). He knew all of you struggles and weaknesses before you came to be. He foresaw when He would hold and carry you.
“For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee” (Isaiah 41:13, KJV).
4. GOD MADE YOU HIS.
When I don’t belong, oh You say that I am Yours
People will reject you because of what you believe, or how you perform, or for the things you say and this will make you feel like you don’t belong. But no matter what happens, we belong to a God that yearns for us to accept how great being His really is.
“…whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s” (Romans 14:8, KJV).
My prayer for you today is that you stop trying to find your purpose and instead rest in the God who already gave you purpose.
You can check out Lauren Daigle’s song “You Say” here.
¹ All boxed lyrics like this come from: Daigle, Lauren. Look Up Child. “You Say”. Capital Christian Music Group. 2018. Retrieved from https://genius.com/Lauren-daigle-you-say-lyrics. Lyrics © CAPITOL CHRISTIAN MUSIC GROUP; Written by: Paul Mabury, Lauren Daigle, Jason Ingram